I just realised that in order to have children who wont conform to the norm, who wont care about trends, who wont feel inferior for not having a phone at 10(I see kids younger with the most expensive phones these days) and children who know the power of their words and thoughts.....I HAVE A LOT OF WORK TO DO ON IMPROVING MYSELF FIRST!

     Some might read this and say, let the kids be kids.... of course they would be kids, and do what kids ought to do. with the prevailing evil in the world, we have to equip ourselves as better models of influence for kids around us, kids these days are way smarter than my generation before them, the struggle to make them understand that all is not as in fairytales couldn't be more legit at this point!

     But as a future mother, if I expect my kids to be respectful they first have to see me do it, if I expect them to be upright they have to see me do it, if I want them to be ambitious they have to see it In me first, if I don't want them to gossip, bleach, be promiscuous, arrogant and dependent ...I have to be the model!

                        

     Parents are a physical representation of the Bible/Quran to their kids, you cant speak on the submissive nature of Ruth and not exhibit it, you cant speak of the courage of Esther and not show them, when they speak of the proverbs 31 woman, your kids should think of you!

     Basically all I am trying to say, without deviating from the point is this, when you live a life worthy of emulation, one of your first deciples  would be your children, they are a product of how you live your life....

    Children are like sponges, you throw them in oil, they absorb oil, throw them in petrol,they absorb petrol...throw them in water, clean or dirty and they can only take in that...throw them in liquid gold and when you hold and squeeze them you see what they have inside!

                    

   On The 9th of July, I turned 24, and Byencit Nimfel said something that just shook me to my very core, in her birthday wish for me she said "I want my daughter to grow and be like you" I cried so hard that day, cos I realised that there was so much about me I didn't want her daughter to take after at all...so gradually, I change, a day at a time, a habit at a time, because I want Nankami and other children like her to have a better person to want to grow to be like. I cant be perfect but I can be better.

 And Today, I realised a better me, means Children that are distinguished in a very positive manner!

P.s

As usual, this rant was not meant to go further than the first paragraph.(this was initially posted as a Facebook status)