5 things that put ladies off on the first date
We all have had that one date experience that was ruined by something the other person did.
After all the wooing and doing shakara, one tends to have high expectations and certain things just are a total turnoff on the first date. Here are five things that put ladies off on the first date.
1. Talking all about your self and your achievements: while it is pertinent to some women to know that they have 'bagged' for themselves a successful and well off young man, There really is no need to toot your horn especially on the first date, it puts her off and truthfully she can find that out all on her own with time.Nothing is as sexy as a man whose works speak for him. You don't have to run your mouth, especially on the first date.
2. Talking ill of your ex or exes: when you start to talk about your ex for any reason on the first date, you begin to sound pitiful, and to tell you the truth, a woman would get irritated and start to wonder what happens if she goes into a relationship with you and it doesn't work out.
Talking bad about your ex makes her feel like she would be talked bad about to other women if things go south. You might think talking about your ex would endear this babe to you, but it quite often is the opposite sir. I would advise you keep all talk on past relationships aside on the first date, unless it is vital to clear the air on any complicating situation.
3. Saying I love you : the times have changed fam, ladies have been deceived by these three words so often that when they hear it, they question your intentions and most times flee before you complete your confessions, while it is very true that ladies are won over by what they hear as opposed to guys who get attracted based on what they see, very few women take you seriously when you say "I love you" on the first date, love is a journey for women, go on this journey with us please, don't rush it.
4. Trying to kiss or ask for sex: if you shouldn't say I love you on the first date what makes you think you can ask for a kiss or more on the first date? You are just looking for trouble, cos if it is someone like me, you most likely would never hear from me ever again. If it is not that you both have agreed on the end result of your date, don't even dare it, even if she is batting her lashes at you and giving you the "green light" , my friend you better swallow your mouth before it puts you in trouble.
I know the western world has a street rule as to when the first kiss , which is actually after a few number of dates. Put a rein on your hormones, don't flirt, it's nasty.
5. Losing your temper: be it road rage, losing your temper with the cab man, security man, the person Taking your order at a restaurant, a first date is a first impression of the kind of man you are, you don't want to come off as one with a bad temper or in need of anger management. Calm down.
BONUS:Bringing a friend along: yes, some men do it too. just because your friend has some attachment or emotional issues or perhaps it could be separation anxiety, such friendship is just weird. you might want your friend to feel her out for you, assess and approve her (but you better not be the kind of man that needs someone else's approval to date a woman you like) there is a time for your friend and date to meet, but it's definitely not when you are out on a date.
EXTRA JARA: make sure to dress smart!
I hope you found this helpful or at least entertaining to read.
I trust you all to behave yourselves. Don't fall my hand on dates.
❤️TAD
